If your toddler has bitten someone, or been bitten, take a deep breath. Biting is one of the most common behaviors we see in children between about 1 and 3 years old. It does not mean your child is mean, and it does not mean you are doing anything wrong.
It is still hard, though, and it is worth understanding. When you know why a child bites, it becomes much easier to help them stop.
Why toddlers bite
- Teething. Sore gums feel better with pressure, and sometimes a friend's arm is the closest thing.
- Big feelings, few words. A toddler who is frustrated, excited or overwhelmed may not have the words yet. Biting is fast and it gets a big reaction.
- Exploring. Little ones learn about the world with their mouths.
- Wanting attention. Even a big, upset reaction is attention.
- Being tired or hungry. Many bites happen right before naps and meals.
What to do in the moment
- Stay calm. A big reaction can accidentally make biting more interesting.
- Care for the child who was bitten first. This shows your child that biting takes attention away, not toward them.
- Use short, clear words. "No biting. Biting hurts." That is enough for a toddler.
- Give them words for the feeling. "You were mad he took your truck. You can say stop!"
How to help it pass
- Look for the pattern. Notice when bites happen. Before lunch? In crowded spaces? When a certain toy is involved?
- Offer something safe to chew, like a teether or a cold washcloth, if teething seems to be part of it.
- Teach simple words and signs like "stop," "mine," "help" and "all done."
- Keep routines steady. Rested, fed toddlers bite much less.
- Praise gentle touches whenever you see them.
Most children outgrow biting as their language grows. If biting happens many times a day, continues past about age 3, or comes with other concerns, it is worth mentioning to your pediatrician.
When biting happens in a classroom, teachers work through these same steps and keep families in the loop. You are never on your own with it.
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